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Could cannabis lubricate your sex life? We asked sexologist, psychotherapist and cannabis educator, Carlen Costa, who thinks it can do that and much, much more

CARLEN COSTA
LINA ZHU

Q: WHAT’S THE STORY WITH CANNABIS LUBE? IS IT REALLY ANY DIFFERENT THAN A REGULAR LUBE? WILL I GET HIGH IF I USE IT?

Have you ever wanted your vagina to feel like a powerful goddess, on her throne of sensual, sweet honey, with the power to manifest everything she desired? At least to me, in my pussy palace, that’s what cannabis lube feels like.

People use cannabis as a complement to their intimate lifestyles for so many reasons, but primarily cannabis is used to increase arousal and intimate sensation. The effect of cannabis on your sex life is dependent on the dose and consumption method. This is why, if you are a first-time cannabis consumer or are looking for a more dynamic way to make your sex life amazing, cannabis lube could be the key to propel your orgasmic potential.

However, I need to let you know that the reported bliss of tending to your sexy bits with green isn’t always true for everybody. The bidirectional influence of cannabis can lead some people to not have their best-ever experience. But most people, especially women, are reporting that using cannabis lube has been the best decision they’ve ever made in the bedroom and for their natural healthcare needs, like medicating during their menstrual cycle.

            The other caution here is that the rules of cannabis lube go by the same rules as all other lube. Oil-based lubricants are not compatible with latex condoms, if that is your primary barrier or contraception method — if it’s not, then toss that salad up. Water-based and silicone-based lubricants are compatible with latex condoms, however most prominent on the market right now (and the easiest way to make your own at-home canna-lube) is with an oil-based carrier, like coconut, MCT, grapeseed or olive oils.

What’s the best way to use cannabis lube? Apply about 20 minutes before your sexcapade to allow for the medicine to be fully absorbed, then get jiggy with it. Feel free to continue applying liberally or use a non-cannabis-infused lubricant for coital continuance (and have the best time ever!).

Q: DOES CANNABIS HELP WITH LIBIDO PROBLEMS?

Here’s the thing — challenges with your libido are tri-fold. It’s either a physical challenge, a mental limitation or a mish-mash of both. We experience challenges with our libido as a response to the physical challenges we are experiencing, like pain with penetration and other variations of vaginismus for women, or erectile dysfunction for men. Libido can also be influenced by your nutrition, and physical and lifestyle health.

            The June 2019 Journal of Sexual Medicine delivered a study where women reported their marijuana use before sexual activity, which stated that, “Most women reported increases in sex drive, improvement in orgasm, (and a) decrease in pain.” That’s what libido is — it’s your body’s expression of desire. (Side note: Many pharmaceuticals and SSRIs can mess with your libido, and you should talk to your health- care provider about your options if you think this might be the case.) It can be very frustrating when our bodies don’t respond or pose limitations to the enjoyment of our pleasure. Emotional or psychological challenges, such as performance-based anxiety, body image challenges, depression and resentment are powerful influencers in your response to arousal. Even if cannabis helps you get back into your body, or relieves pain, there can be a mental component that may need to be addressed and healed with a therapist in order to enjoy the full benefits of your pleasure.

Q: DO YOU HAVE LONGER ORGASMS ON CANNABIS?

Anecdotally, women overwhelmingly report that being high or using cannabis lube helps prolong their orgasmic exaltation. Women also report that when they use cannabis to enhance their intimate lifestyle, they may experience longer and more intense orgasms. Cannabis has helped many women become highly responsive to sexual, pleasure-based, intimate stimuli, whether directing their orgasmic orchestra with a partner, or standing strong on a solo tour.

Q: CAN CANNABIS INCREASE SEXUAL PLEASURE AT ANY AGE? I’VE HEARD WOMEN RESPOND DIFFERENTLY DEPENDING ON THEIR HORMONES AND THEIR TIME OF THE MONTH.

One of the best days of 2019 was when my mom finally asked me about CBD. (She was asking because menopause had been wreaking havoc on her ability to not only fall asleep, but stay asleep. Regardless, it was a great day.) It is incredible to see women of all ages begin to consider the influence of cannabis as part of their lifestyle and medicinal toolkit. Cannabis works for so many holistic applications, and by far, my obvious favourite is in the bedroom. Men and women can use cannabis to increase their sexual pleasure at any age. Either by ingesting edibles, applying CBD topically with lube or via massage oils, or other methods like smoking the flower, let it be known that cannabis + sex = a fucking good time.

Okay, beautiful humans with vaginas, hear, hear! I’m going to throw down on one of the most influential DYK cannabasics right now. One of the reasons cannabis affects you differently throughout the month is because of the sexual and reproductive hormones of estrogen. Here’s the low-down: The higher your estrogen, the lower your tolerance. The lower your estrogen, the higher the tolerance. That’s the key to a lot of it. Yes. Mind freakin’ blown!

This is particularly important not only to bodies that menstruate monthly, but to bodies that also experience the shifts of menopause. As estrogen begins to dip with menopause, thus increasing your tolerance, you may consume more, which could leave you susceptible to the potential not-so-fun effects that cannabis may have, like inducing paranoia or anxiety. You also might want to consume more because the effects of cannabis may be inconsistent on a month-to-month or day-to-day basis. I preach a holistic life that blends the methods of Western medicine and traditional plant medicines into a sacred, personal science. The closer the relationship you have with your body, the better you are able to listen to what it needs and wants, which can help you understand how to heal it. This goes hand-in-hand with using cannabis during menopause: Always start low, and go slow.

Q: ARE THERE ANY NEGATIVE SIDE EFFECTS OF USING CANNABIS? HOW ADDICTIVE IS IT, REALLY?

The question of cannabis addiction is such a triggering one for so many of us. People will anecdotally say you can’t become addicted to cannabis, while others say it’s not the weed you become addicted to, it’s the habit itself. The way you describe and experience addiction is really what’s going to be your method of measure. The Public Health Agency of Canada uses a catch-all for the negative chronic side effects of cannabis. They define Cannabis Use Disorder as “the medical term for a spectrum of patterns of cannabis use leading to significant impairment or distress, including health problems, persistent or increasing use, and failure to meet major responsibilities at work, school or home.” If your cannabis life is impairing your ability to show up in your life, then we have a problem. Whether you choose to believe that cannabis or the habit itself is addictive, it’s important to note that canna- bis is a medicinal plant and must be used responsibly.

I’ve personally come to be aware of a huge potential negative side effect of being a long-term chronic user that I think everyone should know about. Because cannabis use is on the rise, a condition that was seemingly rare is now popping up with greater frequency. My best friend was just diagnosed with Cannabis Hyperemesis Disorder, and it has not been a fun experience to witness her struggle through it. The journal Case Reports in Psychiatry reports that, “Cannabinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome is a condition of cyclic nausea, vomiting and abdominal pain in chronic cannabis users without other identifiable etiologies.” Yeah, the exact opposite of what many of us take cannabis for. I’ve watched her suffer for weeks in pain, taking multiple hot showers, using heating pads and losing her appetite. Needless to say, it has not been cute. If you use cannabis, it is highly advisable to always inform your healthcare providers in order to help them rule out all possible influences that may be negatively impacting your health.

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